The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “There are three people who will neither go to Paradise nor will smell even the fragrance of it: First, a man who adopts the appearance of a woman; second, an alcoholic; and third, a Dayyooth.” People asked, “O Prophet of Allah! Who is a Dayyooth?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied, “One who tolerates indecency and immorality in his woman.” [Tafseer Ayaat-ul Ahkaam]
In another narration his reply was, “A Dayyooth is a person who does not care about who is visiting his wife.” [Tabraani, Jam’ul Fawaaid]
Far removed is the person from Paradise who will not even get the scent of it, for the fragrance of Paradise can be smelt from a distance of 500 years.
What is my life about? Is it about obeying the norms of society or is it about obeying my Creator and Nourisher? Will society, culture, status, family or education get me into Jannah? Or will my connection with the Creator of Paradise, myself and all that exists, get me in?