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Khadijah bint Khuwaylid

Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was the first convert to Islam. She was also the devoted wife of the Prophet Muhammad. The daughter of Khuwaylid ibn Asad and Fatimah bint Za’idah, she came from the family of Quraysh, Mecca’s leading family. The Quraysh belonged to the Banu Hasham clan of the Banu Asad tribe.

Khadijah was well-known in her community for her success in the field of trade. By the time she met Muhammad, she was a wealthy businesswoman who had been widowed twice and had borne several children. Khadijah hired Muhammad to work for her on a specific trade endeavor in Syria. Impressed with his honesty and trustworthiness, as well as his successful conclusion of her business endeavors, Khadijah’s satisfaction with Muhammad’s success soon turned into love. Although she had refused previous proposals of marriage, she proposed to Muhammad. At the time of their marriage, she was 40 years of age he was 25. Together they had six children, four of whom survived past infancy: Ruqayyah, Zaynab, Umm Kulthum, and Fatimah.

Khadijah and Muhammad had been married for fifteen years before he received his first revelation and began preaching the religion that was eventually to be called Islam. On the night he received his first revelation, Khadijah was the one in whom he first confided. She comforted and supported him, and it was she who sought advice from her Christian cousin, who proclaimed that Muhammad’s revelations were from God. Although it was common practice amonst 7th century Arab men to take multiple wives, Muhammad never took another wife in the nearly 25 years of his marriage to Khadijah. Khadijah has been a role model for all Muslim women. Her marriage to Muhammad and the stories of their relationship reflect love, loyalty, trust, and respect between two individuals and partners.

Muslim Women’s reward in paradise

We were asked this question a number of months ago and we gave what we thought was a reasonable answer but it has now become clear that more explanation is needed. What was the question? What is the reward of Muslim women in paradise?

Partly due to the inflated responses of some men, we have been compelled to write about this issue and I shall endeavour to clarify any misconceptions. Some men seem to think that it is absolutely fine to boast about the reward that they will get in paradise then put down any females by assuming that there reward is little. They say that they are going to get seventy two virgins and the woman will receive very little reward. A woman who asked us this question almost questioned if there was any reward for women in paradise. This came as a shock to us and we had to start to search to find answers.

Ponder these Quranic passages:
“Men who surrender unto Allah, and women who surrender, and men who believe and women who believe, and men who obey and women who obey, and men who speak the truth and women who speak the truth, and men who persevere (in righteousness) and women who persevere, and men who are humble and women who are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their modesty and women who guard (their modesty), and men who remember Allah much and women who remember – Allah hath prepared for them forgiveness and a vast reward.” (The Clans 33:35)

“Whoever acts righteously, whether male or female, and is a believer, him verily we shall revive with a goodly life.” (The Bee 16:97)

Gender has no relevance when striving for paradise. Also note that the women here are included in the vast reward. So what could we get in paradise? The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “In paradise there are things that no ear has heard, no eye has seen and no one could contemplate.” (Muslim 2825)

“For men there is a share of what they earned, and for women, a share of what they earned. Pray to Allah for His grace.” (The Women 4.32)

So women like their male counterparts will get their share of what they have strived for in the world and this will not be lost.

“So, whoever does the smallest good act will see it.” (The Earthquake 99:7)

What about in Paradise?

“For them, with their Lord, there is what they wish. That is the reward of those who are good in their deeds.” (The Troops 39:34)

We do not need to emphasise that this is for all the inhabitant of paradise; that they will have whatever they wish for and if they do not want something then it is their choice. It is your paradise and you can choose to have whatever you wish.
It is also narrated that the believing women of paradise are superior to the maidens of paradise by seventy degrees. (Tafsir As-Sharbini Vol 4 p. 181)

Note that in another hadith it states that if one of the maidens of paradise were to spit into the oceans that they would turn sweet. If this is the beauty of the maiden what then would be the beauty of the Muslim woman in paradise?

Hut Full?

They said that they will have a ‘hut of women’ and whatever their wills desire of carnal pleasures. They based their claim on this hadith:

وقال عبد الله بن وهب: أخبرنا عمرو: أن دراجاً أبا السمح حدثه عن أبي الهيثم عن أبي سعيد عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال”أدنى أهل الجنة منزلة الذي له ثمانون ألف خادم، واثنتان وسبعون زوجة، وتنصب له قبة من لؤلؤ وزبرجد وياقوت كما بين الجابية وصنعاء ” ورواه
الترمذي من حديث عمرو بن الحارث به

Abu Sa’eed narrates that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “The lowest station of the inhabitants of Paradise will attain eighty thousand servants, seventy two spouses and erected for him is a dome of pearls, chrysolite and ruby, similar to the distance between Al-Jabiyyah and San’a.” Narrated Imam At-Tirmidhi with a sound chain – Hassan Gharib.

Whenever I get a question that confuses me I try to look at the original sources and then use this as a base for my answers. Now their claim is that men get this reward and not the women. My first problem is that the hadith says ‘Ahl Al-Janna’ which we have translated as the inhabitants of paradise. Does this not include women? It must and it must also include Jinn. Note the hadith is Hassan Gharib which is a hadith that has a sound chain but has come to us from two chains of narrators. The next problem is the word ‘zawjah’ or spouses, which has been translated as women. We can understand this but if you look towards the rules in Arabic for the use of the number seventy, which precedes it, what follows must be a feminine singular noun. This leads us to say that this hadith includes women and Jinn, for the above reasons, to have multiple partners in paradise.

We can also examine the Quranic chapter the Heffer (2:25) which states, “They have purified partners, in there, and abide therein forever.” Partners (azawaj), as Zaynab Ansari rightly pointed out, is not gender specific.

Final Remarks

I would like to say this issue is somewhat a distraction to the concern that we should have which is what are we doing to make ourselves worthy of attaining it. That is what we shall be concerned with.

It really annoys me when some men deem deen to be a ‘man’ thing and that the women should stay at home. This is one of the reasons why men are no longer what they used to be because we have no women who can teach them the religion! If there are facilities for women then use them and accommodate them because other groups will get them and then where would we be!

So please brothers do not make Muslim women’s life harder by pointing out how many partners you will have and remember that they will have what they wish for as well. Paradise is for everyone and in paradise women will be righty rewarded for putting up with us men!! Hmm, that reward could be endless if they are anything like me maybe that is why I am not married!!

I would like to finish this post with this hadith:

Abu Hurayra narrated that the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) once said, “Whoever enters Heaven shall find comfort and no distress; his garments shall not grow threadbare, neither shall his youth ever come to an end. In Heaven there shall be that which no eyes has seen, no ear has heard and which has never occured to mortal mind.”

(Ibn Al-Mubarak, 512; Al-Bayhaqi, Ba’th from Remembrance of Death translation by Abdul Hakim Murad p.241)

There is no distress, no pain, no sadness in Paradise.